Victory versus Self-Respect

COLORED PENCILS REFLECT VIBRANCY , EMOTIONS AND A 

FEELING THAT LIFE - IS GOOD. ISN'T IT ???  

Dear Friends,

                                                We often come across this idea – we need “victory” over something, and we do not understand – what role our self-respect has to play in our lives. Let me say – I want to win this “Badminton Match” against an enemy, and I play the wrong strokes, understanding he/she will not be able to contest my fouls, this means – we may/may not win in this situation, but our “self-respect” shall definitely lose.

                                             I often meet people – who build a false fortress of ego around them, and when you try and seep inside their thoughts you come across, they are diving deep in the waters of pain, themselves. If we are in pain, then why do we – not let this pain – show to those who care for us ?

The first problem we often face – is who is actually ‘supporting’ towards our cause, and who is – only imposing to be one ? Now, this is where – God comes in, man cannot answer everything. Somewhere God has to play a role. Some people say a “verse” or “shlok” before they actually go into something, some ask others – to catch “the lucky finger”, and some would ask a close friend. It is good – you see – to try and reach decisions, via some – “technique of luck”, also not to forget the parrot-card-trick, but there are times, we do not want to show – what we want an answer for. This becomes a very tough ask- nobody – to ask to, nobody to disclose. These are times, we undergo – too much of pressure. This is the time – we undergo –too much of pain. Why do such situations arise ? These situations arise – when we – start to develop the idea – that we are responsible – for what shall happen – from now on. We have this tendency – to move on a path – previously researched by someone – we educate ourselves. There are times, we leave such paths, there are times, we chose an alternative path.

                                                The difference – would be – if I take the path I want to – and succeed – there is maximum – satisfaction. But, also maximum risk. If I take an alternative path told by someone else, and succeed – we will be happy, but the satisfaction level decreases, but risk also decreases. The last option is – We leave that path – and stop for a while – this is very rare, ordinary people don’t take this path. This path has pressure, this path has frustration, this path has – slow approach to every little detail of life. Unless someone – has 100% faith in God, he/she will succumb on this path. But if someone – who has – Made up his/her mind – to be practical, to be slow, to be wise – starts to feel – a separate force – not from this Earth – helping him/her. You start to enjoy every moment of your life, you  start to live every second of your being. You start – to move on a path – I think – can be best named – The Golden Path. You do what you do everyday and still you do – everything differently. You are with the same people everyday – still you are n different emotions – everyday. You are with your life – everyday, but you – are living – not just breathing – actually now.

                                                          How much can we plan ? Can we buy a bus – because the streets are very congested and we need a faster mode of transportation – no – only a mad person will do this. What we can do – is take a longer less congested – still a little secure route to our destination.

Same – is with our relations. We start to expect – because we have invested – so much in someone, he/she will repay – the double and that too immediately. Because – I have smiled on a person, he/she will also smile back on me. No it is not correct, we should understand – the other person – may be in a different frame of mind – when you smiled at her, and she may not respond immediately.

What should we do – we should stop to smile, we should start to cry, we should become numb and become a saint for that – while and understand – now we are not in control. No all the above approaches are incorrect. We have to smile back – in life, positivity in life, should never go. By smiling you are not throwing arrows at someone. You are only – trying to “remove that void” that is now inside you, and growing. I have heard people talking – to others as if they know the future – and the other is a fool. Friends – I believe – such people are rubbish, and it is better to stay as far from them as possible. If you want to help a someone, tell him about life, tell him about victory, tell him about truth, do not tell him – he is weak, do not tell him – he can’t succeed, do not tell him, it is over. No one likes to be – compared, criticized, or created, these are a persons – self – devising tools, very personal to him.

                                                               Life gives back to you, it is on you – what you are investing, and also – what you are expecting. Even God says – “You ask and then I will give to you”, “nowhere it is said – you keep mum – and I will do it for you”.. one has to talk to God in prayer, and once he/she gets an answers – one should respect it – beyond every other commitment of life. Don’t we – always – keep up a promise – we keep to a friend, then why do we fail, when it comes to God, why do we start to feel – god will give another time another day, I feel – friends never leave you, they know your importance, but God once if He leaves you, it is not easy to suddenly – go back to Him.

                                                   In death we see hope, in life we see – problems. Although – contradictorily – in life – we should see – chances, and in death – we should see – “completeness”, the “completeness of our tasks”, one should stand at – our last rites and say – He did – what he came to do, and life is over-joyed at His farewell. Too much of weeping at a funeral – reflects – the loss of life – to death, and also tells us – these are people – Whom Hope Has Left For A Temporary Time, They Need A Miracle To Bounce Back.

Friends – just a bit of poetry before I – recede –

Kisi din tum humey yeh baat apne aap keh dena,

Kahan par jindagi – kis kis ko apne gum batati hai,

Humey bhi kuch khushi mil jayegi yeh sab samajh kar ke,

Humey aksar yeh lagta hai, humey ek – nikammey hai bas.

Tumharey paas aakar ke, yeh afsane jo jeevan ke,

Humey sunne ko miltey hai, bade dilchasp hai saarey,

Kahan hum jee rahe they bas kafan ka naap le le kar

Magar ab tum se milkey jindagi kuch hum pe najil hai.

Jahan bas ret ke mahalon mein khali hum they aur saansein,

Tumhe paake humey ehsaas saarey ab yeh jinda hai,

Nahi paison se yeh duniya kabhi, bhi chalti this ach hai

Kyun phir, itihass ke panno – mein baatein jhoot likhi hai.

Hazaron saal tak insaan – dukh aur dard se joojha,

Ussey jeene ke mauka, kam bahut kam – ata farmaye,

Jo – khud khud ko Khuda kehtey the saarey aaj kabron mein

Khuda se door – ab dojakh – mein baithe sar rahey sarey.

Kahin jab phool , ke upar koi titli, hai mandrati,

Humey is khel mein , insaaniyat ke rang hai dikhtey,

Ki varna – ab to insaano – ko insaano se lena kya,

Koi titli nahi baaki. Kahin ab phool nahi khilta.

Samay ke is samundar mein,  jahazon mein muhabbat ke,

Hummey bhi saath le lo – hum bhi thoda – chahtey hain sab !

Bahut nafrat hai duniya mein,ki jo jee jaye poori ummr,

Badi mushkil se miltey  hai,  yeh lamhe dosti ke jeeeee …….

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